Lets talk sperm!- How I Chose My Sperm donor (SMC)
Discussing the different kinds of donors within a sperm bank and how I chose my donor!
Details mostly pertain to California Cryobank
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My friend is late 40’s in TX planning this route and I’m watching her closely and will be there to assist whenever/however I can. I’m mid 40’s in CA and will be doing the same thing. So grateful for finding your channel. I will be sending her your link and I’m sure she will subscribe like I have. We’ll keep you posted. Congrats and thank you for all the uploads ?
Any updates??
LOVE your videos and your story, congrats on your beautiful babies! I wish you’d label your videos better so more SMBC can find you though! I just did IVF myself with a donor as a single woman. I came across your videos by accident while looking for FET vids. It took me a few videos to realize you were a single mom by choice! I subscribed and can’t wait to see more as you raise your babies.
Tiffany Parker I’ll work on my labeling and thank you so much!
OMG I wish I’d discover your channel early last year. After a year and a half in fertility as a SMBC, I struggled a lot about the donor choice, the medication, etc. All of my friends who are TTC are in a relationship – straight or gay – so I often feel isolated. Thank you so much, I will re-watch all your video before my next IUI to get ready.
Please continue to vlog your journey. I just turned 35 and I’m thinking of going this route.
+Faith W. It’s an awesome option to have! I recommend at least having your fertility tested so that you can know where your at.
Love&OtherDrugs Thank you. Should I go to a reproductive endocrinologist?
Faith W. I would ! But you can always ask your OB if they can run the necessary tests as well.
Knowing your fertility status helps with determining your timeline. It’s a good place to start if your still on the fence
Love&OtherDrugs Yeah I think it’s best for me to go to a reproductive endocrinologist. They’ll probably give me a better view on what steps I should take. As of now, I’m looking at supplements.
Faith W. Definitely get started on those ASAP! Won’t effect egg quality until you have been on them for 3 months consistently
Thank you. Much love to you and your twins. Go, mum.xx
I feel overwhelmed with all the choices. I want to pick a donor that will benefit my child in the long run.
I am Latina (Argentinian/Dominican). My bank only has three donors, 2 Dominican, 1 Argentinian. I tried looking for countries that have similar culture to Argentina, since the DR is an island with Haiti, and Haiti is way different. Uruguay 1 donor, Chile 1 donor, Peru no donors.
I would have way more options if Hispanic/Latino wasn’t a requirement.
I am majoring in Chinese and have to work in Hong Kong for several years. So a Chinese donor is an option. But they would need a Hispanic-Asian role model to look up to. I would need to try super hard to make sure they love this other half of them that has nothing to do with me biologically. Which I am fine with. Other cultures are beautiful and my child has a right to that side.
Ugh idk, I am exhausted mentally fron trying to narrow down my choices.
It is SUCH a big decision so it makes sense that you are struggling to choose ! Minority donors are definitely limited, I had this issue when looking for a black donor that met my requirements and was also listed as an open donor. I ended up going with a donor that is Chinese and Scottish! I happen to have a few Chinese friends and I plan to introduce them to all sides of themselves as best as I can as they age.
You have to do what you’re comfortable with. At the end of the day! I wish I had a way to make the decision easier.
@Love&OtherDrugs thank you for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate it. I feel better knowing that someone else such as yourself ended up going with a different race/ethnicity than your own. Open donor is important for me because i want my child to have that option. It does limit my search a bit but i find it worth it.
You nailed that. I’m a SMBC too and chose my donor very carefully out of a my top 3 picks and I am in love with my smart, beautiful babygirl.
+Sandra Wiley thank you! How old is your little one ? Very happy with my choice too
I would love this option as well, very careful and also I would like to have everything set.♥️
Thank you I’m watching this coz I’m planning on having my second baby through a sperm donor.! It’s very informative ??
You’re welcome ! Let me know if you had any other questions !
I’ve been thinking about doing this. Are you planning on using your own eggs? Was that an option for you or did you need donar eggs too? Good luck in your journey. ?
I have been thinking a lot about doing it on my own, how did your family and friends react?
cynthia Floyd they are very excited! No negativity
Cynthia, did you end up going ahead with it?
I’ve been considering this for years. Happy I found someone here with a like mind.
you’re well spoken, good info, and so easy to follow!!!!
Thank you!!
I have embryos frozen from my eggs + Cali Cryobank donor sperm. My criteria was good health (full genetic screening provided), open ID, adult photos provided, evidence of intelligence (good grades/job)
I am thinking about choosing this path. Thank you for the in depth video.
So far, I donated sperm to 3 couples, all girls surprisingly and looking to donate more in the future! Oh yeah!
You are absolutely gorgeous! I am finding it incredibly shocking that you are going the single mother by choice route and that’s not to be offensive at all to you or any of the other beautiful women I follow on YouTube that have gone this route. Y’all are all gorgeous and that’s why it’s so shocking that I see my beautiful sisters having to go this route. It makes me wonder what’s going on & why can’t we find good wholesome men to marry? Or we may just want to be single mothers by choices and eliminate the baby daddy drama, which I can totally understand that too or if you find yourself at the age where your biological clock is ticking and you want to be a mother.
Please don’t take offense to this & misunderstand me I have followed many single mother by choices journey’s and I find them so fascinating. I think one day I too will be part of the community.
I look forward to watching the rest of your videos so I can learn more about you!
Destined4Greatness no offense taken !
I just really wanted to be a mom. Bring in a relationship was never super important to me. I also want 3 kids before 35 if possible and so for that timeline I needed to start now.
I’m glad I did start now because it took me 18 months to get my first positive.
There are a few good guys out there I’m sure but I’m partially at fault as I didn’t look to hard. I’m mostly a home body.
adventure Times no one is everyones type. Keep yourself open to options but don’t hold back from what you really want either! good luck!
@Constitutional Carrot goosebumps. Indeed in the last couple of decades men have been holding our ovaries hostage by making us wait and hold them down for a chance to be called a wife. This us all to save face and “fit in” society. I do feel the Single Mothers by Choice is a movement and its us taking back the power to give birth and mate with When we want and with Whom we want ✊?
Maybe some are lgbt
I am also planning to be a choice mom within the next year, so thank you for the video and to the commenter for the honest comment! I’m an attorney and 31 years old. Personally, I do not believe that the order has to be love>>marriage>>baby, and it can be baby>>love>>marriage. At this age, men know they have the bargaining power to hold out on marriage, and they are in no rush to tie the knot before 38. If this is the only power they feel like they have in this day and age, this is how we women wrest the power back. Ultimately, I believe being a choice mom brings society closer to its natural state where women and only women should be able to choose who to mate with. Look at other species from fish to mammals: the males have to evolve elaborate plumage, fight with each other to the death and defend their territories for the privilege of being able to mate and the females have the ultimate say. Human society is backward in this respect. Men should not be able to say no if a woman wants to breed with them, especially if she requires no work from him to raise the child. Being a choice mom is the closest thing to a natural state of affairs we have.
I just came across you page and thinking about doing this. I’m about to be 36 and I would love to have at least 1 child
Have you got a donor
I’m definitely thinking about doing this ❤
Thank you i started to look at donors but i was getting overwhelmed cause i was looking at everything education, currrent occupation, nationality, religion hair color, eye color & health backround i have to cut something out to narrow down the search so thank you